“It doesn’t matter so much to the kids what we feel, but rather that we KNOW what we feel.”
-Suzy Miller, Integration Specialist
We are All Mirrors for Each Other
Learning your child is “mirroring” an unconscious pattern of yours or a family member can bring up a lot of thoughts and feelings. Did I cause this pain in them? Is their behavior my fault? The answer is No, absolutely not. All beings mirror each other’s unseen patterns until we start to notice what’s happening and care for ourselves in a new way. Through awareness and gentle baby-steps in connection with another person, we can support our body’s capacity to regulate in its own time without forcing it to be calm or happy. We also mirror each other’s Love and gifts and Tending to Your Nervous System sessions can free us up to do more of that! We can greet all of this in each other and ourselves without blame, shame, or judgement. And the best part is the more we “fill our own cup” and care for ourselves first, the more our kids no longer need to reflect what we couldn’t see.
“I think it's crucial and necessary for anyone to consider the fullness of their cup. We can tell when you have taken care of the needs that fulfill you as a person." -Joe Prohaska, Non-Speaking Autistic Speller, when asked about the importance of nervous system regulation for Caregivers (shared with permission from @betsyonthego)
As a former Licensed Massage Therapist I have worked on and observed thousands of peoples’ nervous systems. Somatic Experiencing™ techniques have made a powerful impact on my life from being able to be with big emotions, to reversing chronic illness, and improving my relationships. It can help us cultivate options when our bodies only know how to fight, freeze, flee, or fawn (people please) in certain situations. When we allow this process to unfold without trying to control it, our life force naturally returns giving us resilience, energy, capacity for joy, and more resources for the next time a perceived threat becomes an actual threat. For the last 5 years I’ve watched people around the world in incredibly stressful situations like war zones, learn to find moments of peace to help their systems recover and regulate. I know you can too.
If you love to learn the science behind techniques, you can read more here.
“You were never meant to hold this alone.” - Luis Mojica
Community and connection is where recovery and regulation happens. I’m here to hold these big feelings with you as you learn to be with them in a new way and encourage you to build community for support, as we were naturally meant to live. It starts one relationship at a time.